If your child quietly compares themselves to high-achieving siblings or peers, this honest
conversation will help. Note: It briefly discusses suicide, so please choose what feels right for you.
What happens when the thing you worked so hard to achieve makes you question what success even means? Melissa Lozanovski is an educator, leader, former founding principal, and mum.
At school, she compared herself to academically high-achieving siblings and carried quiet pressure to measure up. She entered teaching young, led early, and built a new school from the ground up, while privately navigating grief, burnout, and a health scare that forced harder questions about what matters.
Her framework of becoming, belonging, and lifelong learning offers parents a hopeful way to think about success beyond grades, titles, and recognition, and why every child’s path unfolds differently.
🎧 What you’ll discover:
• How comparison with siblings and peers shapes a child’s confidence
• Why one adult believing in a young person changes everything
• The emotional weight that can sit behind outward success
• Protecting wellbeing while chasing achievement
• Why belonging and emotional safety matter for growth
• Thinking about success beyond grades and titles
Know someone with a unique story or path? Share it with us at morethanascorepod@gmail.com!
If this conversation brings anything up for you, support is available:
• Lifeline Australia (24/7): https://www.lifeline.org.au or 13 11 14
• Beyond Blue: https://www.beyondblue.org.au or 1300 22 46 36
• Kids Helpline (for people aged 5–25): https://kidshelpline.com.au or 1800 55 1800
More Than a Score: Redefining Success Beyond School is hosted by Laura Pitt and Dan Steele, a former teacher and award-winning school leader on the Mornington Peninsula, Victoria. New episodes fortnightly. Subscribe to follow along.
